Parents Of Twins, I Salute You

So having a baby is a little time-consuming, turns out. I know! Who'd have guessed! Despite the fact that Hugo has proven, so far, to have inherited his father's mellow, easygoing temperament—as opposed to his mother's, ahem, less mellow, less easygoing one—the basic job of keeping a tiny human being fed, happy, and not rolling around in his own poop all day has been surprisingly all-encompassing.

Hugo turned six weeks old on Friday—this time six weeks and three days ago I was just starting to have the sort of contractions that made me seriously contemplate throwing myself out of the fifth floor window of the delivery room, because that pain seemed preferable—and he is, I have to admit, shockingly cute. I mean, yeah, I'm biased or whatever, but come on, I just have to look at his little face and I'd do whatever he told me to do. You want chocolate ice cream for dinner, Hugo? You want a pony? How about an all-expenses paid trip to Bora Bora? I'm booking it right now. Window seat or aisle? Oh, Business Class, you say? Of course, my little angel, of course. And would you also like my complimentary champagne when the flight attendant isn't looking?

Even though he is turning out to be a fairly chillaxed little baby, there is one area in which Hugo does not suffer fools and that is eating. Perhaps to make up for the fact that he looks absolutely nothing like me, he seems to have inherited one of my keenest characteristics: he really, really, really likes to eat. He likes to eat so much, in fact, that we have taken to calling him Hungry Hungry Hugo, one of many nicknames we've given him, most of them having to do with this hungryness and—thank goodness—his cuteness. (Other things we like to say to him right before he feeds: "Your usual today, sir?", "I'm sorry, but you're going to have to put a shirt on to eat here," and "Can I tell you about our specials? We have Left and Right.") 

But man, breastfeeding is kind of boring. I mean, sure, it's also sort of amazing and I'm frequently fairly awed that I am nourishing another person using only my body, you know, NBD, but still. What do you do during breastfeeding sessions? I've tried to read, but it's a little hard to turn the pages, so then I tried to read on my iPad, but I'm just not one for e-books, I don't think, so now I mostly just end up browsing a lot of Pinterest and watching a lot of Keeping Up With The Kardashians, which means I could probably recite, like, seven salted caramel s'mores-based recipes right now and also the names of the entire Kardashian-Jenner clan. (Which isn't really that much of a coup, honestly, despite the fact that there are about twenty-five of them. I mean, when in doubt, just guess something beginning with K.) 

Is there some fun passes-the-time-while-breastfeeding activity I'm missing out on, perchance? Is there a late-night group of moms somewhere on the Internet who all connect during the wee hours of the morning when we're sitting alone in the dark in our rockers with a small hungry person attached to our boob? Are they accepting new applicants?

Apart from spending a lot of time with Hugo glued to my body—not that I'm complaning, I know I'll miss this in a year's time—we haven't really been doing a whole lot except......well, just getting by, I guess. Sean was off work for a glorious five weeks, which meant I had a ton of help while he was home, but he's gone back to work now so it's just me and Hugo all day, and we seem to spend most of it just eating and napping. I guess this isn't exactly news to anyone, but having a newborn blows any semblance of a schedule you may have had just clean out of the water. I've had to make peace with getting one-eighth of my to-do list done on any given day, and most of the time my to-do list is basically just "put on actual trousers, not just leggings." 

Also there has been some gas. I won't elaborate. You're welcome.

Oh, it's all just such a blur and a fog, these first few weeks, althought of course it's a lovely one. Well, mostly a lovely one; I wouldn't complain about a little more sleep. Hugo mostly wakes up twice in the night, for about an hour each, which isn't horrible but certainly isn't a walk in the park either, because the worst part about this broken sleep, I'm finding, is that it's cumulative, night after night after night, and though I've mostly got used to it now—and made peace with the fact that I can get eight hours a night, it's just going to be broken into chunks with some awake time inbetween—it does still feel fairly torturous at times. Once I get my act together and figure out my super intimidating, rather medieval-looking breast pump, Sean can start doing a feeding or two, which will help. Right now, however, if you are a person who goes to bed at night and wakes up in the morning, and doesn't spend two hours watching Kourtney and Khloe Kardashian flit about LA in between, I want you to stand up and applaud yourself. Now take a bow and do a little spin and wave to me out here in double-espresso land. You might as well have won the lottery, my friend. 

 

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Leigh
Aug 26, 2013

So happy to hear how well you and Hugo are doing! Yes, you are correct, he is absolutely darling, and should be denied NOTHING!

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Catherine
Aug 26, 2013

Netflix. So much Netflix. Especially Orange Is The New Black. And the sleep thing gets better, it does! I got six and a half hours in one chunk at the weekend (16 weeks in) and celebrated by baking scones and weeding the garden. RAWK.

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iconmaster
Aug 26, 2013

I think you're too quick to write off ebooks for your lactational leisure time. An iPad is going to be hard to use one-handed, whereas a Kindle is ideal for it. Get a Paperwhite so you don't need to keep a lamp on.

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Kathleen
Aug 26, 2013

(Hi Holly! We instagram-chatted the other day)

As a mom to twins, all I can say is: having a newborn, whether one or two, is overwhelming. Period. I can imagine that having one would be easier, but I never knew any different and I think the solution is the same - you just figure out what works for you and keep doing it. That's not to say that I didn't get really tired of wearing one baby while carrying the other, walking up and down our hallway singing Mary Had a Little Lamb...

I will agree on the Netflix thing - I watched all four seasons of Parenthood while I was home with the gremlins for four months. Also, once they were six weeks old, I made myself go for a walk outside with them, rain or shine. Sometimes we made it one block, sometimes I was out for an hour and a half (with a convenient stop at an ice cream parlor halfway). I was so scared to do it, and my husband pushed me earlier than I thought I could do it alone, but in retrospect it's the only thing that helped me stay sane. Sure, my daughter usually ended up in the k'tan after 20-30 minutes and I sweated out all the water I had imbibed in hopes of upping my milk supply carrying a little furnace wrapped in black cotton on my chest, but it was great.

I know what you mean about eBooks, but I really enjoyed reading on my Kindle. May be worth a try?

Have fun! It's crazy but it really does go so quickly.

(Welcome back!)

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Ashley
Aug 26, 2013

I am so happy to hear that you're making it through! I follow your instagram and twitter so I understand that Hugo is the demanding one! (I kid! It's _ash! With awkward humor!)

Also, get that boy a pony ASAP

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Jules
Aug 26, 2013

I agree with iconmaster- Kindle all the way!

Amazon makes some great cases with built in tiny booklights that are pretty inexpensive, if you already have a non-Paperwhite model. For me, reading 'lighter' books on the kindle is easier than reading, say, a bookclub book. But I am trying to get better, and find some scenarios where a Kindle is just so much more convenient. (Like while waiting for one's nails to dry!) Good luck, and thanks for the adorable update post.

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Keeper of Keys and Grounds
Aug 26, 2013

With my 1st (who shares Hugo's birthday), I was definitely a bring the crying baby to the living room to feed type of Mom. I don't know how many hours of ABC World News Now I watched in the 3-4am time-- on mute. I fell asleep sitting up several times.

With the second, who came along 1.5 years later, there was no couch sitting for us. Just kept the baby close to our bed and pulled him in when needed. No way was I going to lose multiple hours of sleep with a toddler and a baby.

Now, all these years later, I can tell you-- I wear real pants every day. Wash, dry and curl my hair. Make meals and sometimes I even clean showers.

Keep doing what you're doing-- which is realizing that this is just a tiny blip in the grand scheme of life-- and you'll be fine.

He's adorable; you're adorable. Can't get any better than that.

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lindsay
Aug 26, 2013

You're doing great, Holly! Isn't the sleep deprivation (or just the wonky schedule) crazy? I wasn't expecting it to knock me off my rocker so easily. I constantly fell asleep in the chair while nursing. However, once you do start pumping, do yourself a huge favor and get one of these pumping bras! I swear by it because it frees your hands to actually read, or hold the baby, or play with your phone more easily/comfortable. Holla! http://www.amazon.com/Simple-Wishes-Hands-Free-Breastpump-XS-L/dp/B00295...

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Luisa
Aug 26, 2013

A wise friend once (last year, in June) told me that the first 12 weeks are the hardest, of which the first six are the hardest, of which the first three are the hardest. She was so right. So yay you for getting through weeks three and six! You're almost done with the hardest part. The late-night reading I was obsessed with for all the months of cluster-feeding that my Hugo did was on www.askmoxie.com. So good.

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Taryn
Aug 26, 2013

So, I love to 'read' the Reddit Pics app when I'm up in the middle of the night with my son (he just turned 2 months old on Saturday). It's just pictures/memes/random gaming jokes, about which I know nothing, but they're constantly refreshed, and the app only shows the most upvoted ones, so they tend to be hysterical.

Also, I will tell you that come 6 weeks, the sleeping starts to get MUCH better. One of these nights in the very near future, Hugo will spontaneously sleep for a full 6 hours. It will almost scare you when you wake up with painful, swollen boobs, and you'll hit your husband with shock/fear/excitement and make him guess how long the baby has been asleep. This will last for that one night alone, and then the subsequent week he'll go back to the 2x night wake-ups. Then, come week 7ish, you'll get two nights of 5-6 hours stretches...then by week 8 it will happen three times. By the time Hugo is 3 months old, you will be getting a full 7-8 hours of sleep at a time. The beginning is a whirlwind, but all of sudden, out of nowhere, they just start sleeping! And then, so do you!

Good luck! xo

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Maud
Aug 26, 2013

Are you co-sleeping? If you can figure out how to nurse him lying down, that really helps everyone get back to sleep quicker. And it's a lot more restful than sitting up for an hour in the middle of the night even if you're not actually asleep. But it's tricky to figure out with a small baby, I know.

But other than that, this is your chance to watch all that trashy tv and not feel guilty. Use it.

Oh, and he's absolutely beautiful.

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Awnie
Aug 26, 2013

So glad to see you back! Completely agree about breastfeeding being boring. I love reading the Skimm (http://www.theskimm.com/), a summary of the days news in a chatty style that is delivered via email each morning, while doing the second night feeding (usually around 6am). The Skimm is delivered early (by 6am) and you can read it easily on your iphone, which leaves your hands free for feedings and doesn't require all the lights on. Plus it helps keep me in touch with what is going on in the world, which I otherwise wouldn't be since my 5 week old keeps me pretty busy :).

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Tori
Aug 26, 2013

Oh, I feel you. Am currently into week 3 with a little man who is so hungry that he will pound at my breasts in frustration, like Thor, when they're not flowing fast enough for him. I've found old episodes of The West Wing to be invaluable while pumping (they rarely yell, it makes me feel vaguely attached to my brain, is quite soothing). I also finally downloaded 'Lean In' at 3.12 am the other morning to read on my iphone- but I'm not sure if that was inspired or insane. Nb, if you find that cool corner of the internet for 3 am feeds, let me know. (ps- Hugo is sublime).

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Sarah Brown
Aug 26, 2013

I love him! I want him to model all kinds of tiny hats!

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Beth
Aug 26, 2013

I loved my kindle during breastfeeding- and kept it light. If you haven't already read Bossypants, now is the perfect time to do it. I loved her description of breastfeeding while watching Entourage.

I listened to a few books on audibles.com, too.

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Fiona
Aug 26, 2013

Inmate of 8 weeks here. I play candy crush saga and plants vs zombies while feeding......I'm still half asleep so any book I read ends up a bit of a blur.

Get Hugo the pony. Catherine wants an iced coffee every day and I fulfill that wish gladly ;)

Btw, when she is finished a feed I get a kick out of "have you had an elegant sufficiency?"

Congrats though, aren't they the sweetest?

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Valerie L
Aug 26, 2013

I believed I would read a Ron on my maternity leave, but it was the days before ereaders and turning pages was hard. I watched an ungodly amount of Brovo on my leave.

As for sleep, co-sleeping was the way to go for us. I actually felt rested. I know it isn't for everyone, but it really worked for us.

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Valerie L
Aug 26, 2013

gah! That is supposed to be read a ton...not ron. sorry.

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Georgie
Aug 27, 2013

I found that I just couldn't concentrate on books, paper or e. I read A LOT of blogs whilst breastfeeding, funnily enough I discovered your blog whilst feeding in the wee small hours of February earlier this year. I too was on Pinterest a lot, and as for TV? Teen Mom (I know, it's amazing what you can sit through when you have to), Game of Thrones (spent most of it hiding my son behind a blanket so he couldn't see the gore and naughty bits) and good old Aussie soaps I had recorded.

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Georgie
Aug 27, 2013

PS. Hugo is CUTE!

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Kristin
Aug 27, 2013

Oh lady, my daughter is not quite a month old and I totally feel you. Not just on the broken sleep thing (it's currently 4 am in Atlanta), but also the to-do list; it takes me a week to accomplish what I used to do in a single Saturday. I spent countless hours each day glued to the bed or the couch with no shirt on, watching whatever's on in the middle of the day (thank you Jesus for Roseanne reruns!), or reading the Internet cover-to-cover, every single night. My butt actually hurts from all the sitting. It's a good thing she's so cuddly and sweet; it's what makes the boredom tolerable.

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Chrissy
Aug 27, 2013

No kids here, thus no advice, but I just wanted to say that Hugo is gorgeous and I'm glad to see that your wonderful sense of humor is perfectly intact. xoxo

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Jill Parrella
Aug 27, 2013

Yay for you! I have been keeping up with Hugo (new TV show in the works yet?) and you through your blog here my friend. You two seem to be getting through the tough stuff pretty darn good!

It's been almost two years since I stopped breastfeeding Claire and yet it feels like yesterday I was up with you in the wee hours, alone in the dark, rocking away while making sure I didn't drop her from dozing off!

Breastfeeding truly is a boring task even though it is amazing, but how many times can you gaze down at your little one before you find yourself falling asleep and then waking with a crook in your neck?

I got myself a Nook thinking I would read while nursing, but it never worked, I prefer paper books over plastic, so I sold it. I like the suggestion of Netflix for the daylight feeding hours. I don't think they had the streaming option way back then...lol I have it now, but oddly enough I never take the time to watch it. My three kids enjoy the service more than me.

I'm sure the first week without Sean has been strange. I only had help for about a week and then it became VERY hard for me to be alone, Claire was colic and it lasted about 6 months. Mark is gone for about 14 hours each day and with three at home I was tired beyond recognition!! I had to really learn to let go of my wanting to get anything done on my to-do list. And from an OCD overachiever, that was tough. But once I did, everything else became easier.

I hope you are making sure to stay connected with your friends and see and hear familiar faces and voices. That always made my days and tiredness a bit easier to get through.

Before you know it, you will be saying, "Wait! Did I just sleep through and entire night?!?! Run, now, check the baby, make sure he didn't escape and head off to Bora Bora without me!"

And yes, Hugo is gorgeous!!!! Keep the pics coming.

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Claire Choudhry
Aug 27, 2013

So lovely to see a post - and so glad you are doing well. Hugo is just the cutest. ♥

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jen
Aug 27, 2013

The first time around I watched Gilmore Girls. I can't remember how many seasons I made it through but it was a lot. So pick a TV series you've been wanting to watch and go for it. This time around, I've been reading. Pumping at work? Reading. Nursing at home? Reading. I have an old school Kindle and I love it because I can wedge it between my leg and the boppy and still have my hands basically free. Have you read any of the Outlander series? Because I basically made it through all of those (7 novels, with uh I don't even know how many pages 700 - 1000 in each) in the first 4 months of nursing.

Hugo is adorable.

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Meredith
Aug 27, 2013

Have you tried audio books? I'm hooked on them for getting me through long tedious tasks when I can't read - driving long distances, painting a room, washing the dishes (it feels like it takes an eternity!). Some libraries even have them available to check out electronically, so you just have to download. Audible is also a cheaper way to go than just buying them straight from iTunes. Good luck! Hugo is adorable!

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Sheila
Aug 27, 2013

I tell you what, that is one cute baby.

Also? You won't believe how good you will feel on five uninterrupted hours of sleep, even if it happens only once in a while. And it will happen soon, promise.

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Jennifer
Aug 27, 2013

AskMoxie.org has a post today about broken sleep. She offers a new perspective on it that might be heartening to you and others in the midst of newborn-hood. My girls are now six and four and sleep really well at night, but I've never stopped the pattern of asleep for four hours, up for a while, asleep again for another 3 or four hours. After reading AskMoxie's post today, I feel much better about my middle of the night wakefulness. Currently, I'm watching
all 121 episodes of "The Secret Life of the American Teenager" when I'm up at 2AM. It's a terrible show, but I can't stop watching - or praying that my girls don't grow up to be like the girls on that show!

Congrats on your gorgeous boy!

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CA
Aug 27, 2013

I agree about the Kindle and starting a new (old) series on Netfix, but I also found I could do small paperbacks in one hand. The Sookie Stackhouse books are fun and were perfect for that.

Hugo is beautiful and I am so happy for you.

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Liz M.
Aug 27, 2013

I read tons of blogs on my iPhone. (I never even knew blogs existed until I had my first daughter in 2009. And now I'm an addict! Ha!) Watch out for depending on videos. After a few months the babies get hip to their surroundings and look at anything making noise. You never know how much your nips can stretch til you're feeding a squirmy baby.

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Julie
Aug 27, 2013

So glad to read a new post and hear that all is well! Well - except for the lack of sleep, which was to be expected. He's adorable and yes, he needs a pony!

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yours truly, melissa
Aug 27, 2013

Congrats on Hugo! He's a gem. :)

Our girl, Alice, is just 3 months old and I find that during our breast feeding sessions I browse a whole lot of instagram and bloglovin on my iphone... You probably already do that too, though.

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Amanda B.
Aug 27, 2013

On the scary, medieval breast pump... (What kind do you have, anyway? My Medela never seemed scary.) If it's the whole electric-motor-double-suction thing that's intimidating, start out with a single hand pump. Much more friendly and you are in total control. Good luck! You are doing the best thing for your baby!

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Marci
Aug 27, 2013

He is lovely! The broken sleep over days, weeks, months is so hard. I am still doing it with my seventh month old and it does get easier, but it isn't like I ever feel rested. I know it eventually gets better though (I also have a 5 year old and I know I felt rested sometime in the past five years), but I can't remember when it really changed.

Anyway, things I like to do while breastfeeding: reading (but found that I couldn't do that until they were a bit older as they get better at breastfeeding and I am a bit less exhausted), listening to audio books (also a great thing to have on during the day as I can do it while making faces at my baby which although lovely can also get a bit tedious) and podcasts (I recommend One Bad Mother as one thematically in tune choice), playing scrabble or other iphone games, making phone calls, and sleeping (I can fall asleep sitting up quite easily apparently).

I do not enjoy pumping and didn't do it at all until I went back to work. However this turned out to be a problem as my baby wouldn't take a bottle for the first two weeks and was starving when I would get home and cranky for her grandma during the day. So as much as it unpleasant and annoyingly time consuming, I wish I had done it sooner. On the other hand, my baby is growing fine and she now takes the bottle, so perhaps it didn't matter.

Good luck in all of it. It is surprisingly hard despite it being wonderful.

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I am not a parent, so I can't offer any helpful advice. I can, however, share this fascinating article I read the other day called, "Your Ancestors Didn't Sleep Like You," which I find to be somewhat pertinent, and hope it doesn't get me sent to the spam folder. http://slumberwise.com/science/your-ancestors-didnt-sleep-like-you/

He sure is a beautiful baby!

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Dianna Crystle
Aug 27, 2013

Yay! I was very happy to see a new post and congrats on the progress! It's great you are all doing well. I don't have any nursing entertainment advice (I'm still pregnant with #1) but I'm sure Pinterest might get old, even though it's awesome! I look forward to more posts and updates on your journey...!

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Dianna Crystle
Aug 27, 2013

Yay! I was very happy to see a new post and congrats on the progress! It's great you are all doing well. I don't have any nursing entertainment advice (I'm still pregnant with #1) but I'm sure Pinterest might get old, even though it's awesome! I look forward to more posts and updates on your journey...!

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Kari
Aug 27, 2013

Twitter was my late-night mom hangout thing. It helped that I am on the east coast, so there were still west coasters up and able to entertain me. Plus, west-coasters (ahem, you) often posted blog posts late, which were perfect for reading at 2am. So, maybe get some friends a few time zones over? :)

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jen
Aug 27, 2013

Miriam wakes up 2-3 times a night when she's not in a growth spurt, but she only eats for about 10 minutes. So my middle-of-the-night activities include checking Facebook, Twitter and Instagram (in that order). But I'm with you on the interrupted sleep - it sucks. Hopefully we're both approaching the end of this phase!

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Kate
Aug 27, 2013

Aw, what a cutie :) I'm still in the "twice a night, please" camp, so if you find that club send me an invite too. Mostly I just read on my Kindle or play countless games of solitaire on my iPhone. Hang in there!

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Elizabeth Joy
Aug 27, 2013

I was in exactly the same place as you regarding e-books, they just didn't feel right. (My latest novel mentions several times the supremacy of paper books, that's how strongly I used to feel.) But when my DD refused to nap without being pushed repeatedly back and forth in her stroller for 20-30 minutes, I bought myself a Nook to keep from repeatedly rolling my eyes and sighing exasperatedly. And now somehow I feel put out whenever I need to read a paper book. The effort of turning pages and finding a bookmark!

As far as the what to do all day thing, have you checked out Babycenter? I joined a babycenter birth club when my daughter was a month old, and made friends that I'm still friends with 3.5 years later, a couple of whom I've actually met in person. Since everyone's going through the same things at the same times, there's ALWAYS someone to talk to in the MOTN, nursing a kid. It helps so much during the crazy times. (Another plus, they use the acronym BBC, so you should feel right at home.)

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Courtney
Aug 27, 2013

I'm with Taryn--I think better sleep is just around the corner for all of you! My baby is 6 months old now, and cutting 3 (4?) teeth, so I'm up twice (or more!) at night, too and I feel your pain. But it does help to know that it's just a blip. And you're not the only one awake at all hours!

With my son, I would watch TV (Law & Order seemed like it was always on). That was how I learned there were such cinematic triumphs as "Hallelujah, I'm a Bum!" and "Slappy and the Stinkers." But this time, I'm mostly skimming Instagram and reading. I actually downloaded the entire Anne of Green Gables series to my kindle (app) and it was easy, soothing reading. I didn't want anything too serious or stressful in the middle of the night.

Your Hugo is a sweetie. I love little baby barrel chests and chubby cheeks. So smoochable.

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A'Dell
Aug 27, 2013

I like the Buzzfeed app in the middle of the night. Verrrry satisfying, that one is.

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Larita
Aug 27, 2013

I'm not sure how you're holding Hugo for nursing, but I did an awful lot of reading while nursing the first one and never had problems turning pages. I usually propped a leg + baby up with a pillow, so didn't really use either of my hands for nursing. Just wait until the second one comes around and you spend your nursing time trying to keep a baby latched on with one arm while wrangling a toddler with the other. :)

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Ashley in MD
Aug 27, 2013

I was so excited to see a post from you! (But please don't take that as pressure to write more right now; I know how busy new babies keep you!) Hugo is so sweet.
I spent a lot of my early breastfeeding time using the BabyCenter message boards. I burnt out on it eventually (anonymity on internet message boards doesn't always bring out the best in people, myself included) and by the time my son was a year old I was pretty much done with it, but in the first few months it was sometimes nice to talk to people who were in the same sleepless boat. Just reading blogs was always good at night, too.
During daytime feeds I'd read a lot on my Kindle (which is easy to do one-handed!). I found at night that that didn't keep me awake enough, though. I was always worried about nodding off, so I needed to do something on my phone so the light would keep me alert (hence the BabyCenter and blog reading).
When I could really get my act together I'd cue up a show on my laptop before bed so that when my baby woke me up at 1 AM all I had to do was hit the play button and I could watch part of a show. It was nice to go to bed with something already cued up and know I had that to look forward to when the baby woke up.
This is going to sound crazy to you now, but by the time my son was 6/7 months old he could finish up an entire nursing session in less than 10 minutes, and I actually missed the leisurely 40 minute sessions when I could read or play on the computer.

I had a pretty mellow little guy, too, and he started sleeping 10 hours a night at least a few times a week by 8 weeks. Hope Hugo is the same!

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rachel
Aug 27, 2013

I too did a ton of reading while nursing. Lots of nursing in the bed on my side, and lots just using the curvy pillow thingy (wow, i really forgot that already?!) under the baby. I think I would have cried through the Kardashians but loved all the reading I caught up on :)

He is adorable....Glad you are back!

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Mrs G
Aug 28, 2013

Hugo is beautiful! Congratulations!

Nursing my son in the middle of the night while laying down was great for me because I could close my eyes and get some light sleep. We did a bit of co-sleeping; the cradle was in our room for the first few months and he slept in it most of the night, except when he was nursing and I'd fall asleep for a while. I also did the usual - read blogs, facebook, words with friends, etc.

I called my son the Gourmet Grazer because he just nursed his way through those first few months. My lactation consultant told me that some babies are snackers and it sounds like Hugo falls under that category. It's crazy how time consuming nursing is at first, isn't it? It won't always be that way though.

Don't forget to add "keep the baby alive" to your daily to-do list. You can cross it off at the end of the day and feel super accomplished, even though you didn't get the dishwasher unloaded or make it to Target. :)

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Sabrina
Aug 28, 2013

Kindle for the iPhone and Netflix.

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Wendy
Aug 28, 2013

It's already been said, but definitely Netflix. I watched the entire Veronica Mars series in the first few weeks with my little guy. Orange Is The New Black is SO GOOD. Sherlock, Gilmore Girls, crappy romantic comedies, it all just goes by in a blur. Audio books are great too. Something light so you don't have to pay much attention.

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MSH
Aug 29, 2013

I read paperbacks. I ripped them in to small sections (50 pages or so) so I could hold them and turn pages with one hand...It got me through Anna Karenina and a few other classics. I spent a lot of that time dreaming about what I would do when I had both of my hands free simultaneously. Good luck!

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Meeshie
Aug 29, 2013

My son is five months old.. ermm.. today. Still exclusively breast fed and everything. The first month? I got addicted to junk TV. I would watch Teen Mom and yell at the people on the TV "What do you mean you forgot to feed her?!!?!? Someone call social servicesssssssss!!!!"

Now? I blog. LOL. Well, I do computer related activities. I bought a fantastic laptop desk and popped it in front of my couch and during the day I sit there with my boppy pillow on my lap and feed him while sorting e-mail, prepping for grocery shopping, paying the bills, blogging, etc...

Still boring but at least it's useful. ;)

That 4am feeding though, that one is still killing me.

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Erin @ Fierce Beagle
Aug 29, 2013

Yep to Netflix, and also to nursing lying down. It's certainly tricky with a weeun, but in the next couple weeks you might try giving it a go. It was a game-changer for me (and still is for the occasions when my 8 month old wakes up for a predawn brekky).

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Meeshie
Aug 30, 2013

I co-slept the first four months. I had to. I was so sleep deprived I was bumping into walls. Other than that? I set up a laptop table in front of my couch and I read books or surf the net or watch TV shows on it or... whatever. I found sitting on the couch with him on his boppy on my lap nursing worked out better for me than anything else.

PS.. medela breast pump = not entirely medieval.

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Kellie Koschmeder
Aug 30, 2013

He is beautiful!!!!

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Auburn
Aug 30, 2013

I've heard other moms describe your exact situation and it sounds so foreign to me. Harriet is either the most efficient eater ever or just not that into the boobs. She nurses on ONE side only (can't ever get her to do both) for an average of 8 minutes. Sometimes it's 6. Occasionally she does a slow, sleepy feed that might stretch to 14 minutes. But that's it. Then, at least at night, it takes me some time to get her fully asleep enough to go back to her basinette. But the bottom line is that I have ZERO time to do anything other than try my hardest to remember the time I started feeding so I can record it. There's been minimal TV time and almost no reading and I'm sorta feeling jipped. Also, she's still up every 2-3 hours at night so I think I average about 2-3 hours of sleep, total, which is less than awesome. Thankfully my mom orders me to nap at least once a day and that's what's saving me. That, and knowing that longer stretches of sleep are, in theory, in my not-so-distant future.
I have another girlfriend with a baby boy who also does the boob punching that one of your commenters described. Maybe this is a gender thing? Boys are more ravenous than girls?
Incidentally, our meal-time talk centers more around the fact that Harriet HATES my right breast. I have a super fast let down there and it produces double what the left one does so I think it's like drinking from a fire hose. She's not a fan, so we do a lot of the "oh no, buddy, righty is up to bat...get ready" talk. I have to lay down for her to even stand a chance on that side. And I've already had to pump a fair amount because she doesn't drain it well and so it gets terribly full and uncomfortable, but I've been pleasantly surprised by the ease of the pump, so don't fear yours. Wow, this was a lot of boob talk for a blog comment. Apologies.

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gina
Aug 30, 2013

For 3 months I have been watching back-to-back episodes of Mad Men, all 5 seasons, on Netflix or Amazon.

Nursing lying down works for me only during my little girl's breakfast feeding when she wants to wake up and play, or only in the afternoon when she has a nap, but never never in the middle of the night. We also don't change her diaper at night unless we know for a fact that she's got a dirty diaper. If it's just wet, we let it alone. The less messing around with her, the easier it is for her to fall back to sleep.

For reading, I've been doing what I can with The New Yorker. Amazingly, I can actually read whole articles now whereas before baby I couldn't. I guess I was "too busy."

Hugo is gorgeous!

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eileen c.
Aug 30, 2013

sorry, so late in sending my best, adorable baby you all got there! be careful when wishing those mother's of twins your best, I used to secretly do the same after my first (a son) was born, um 3 years later, guess what? yup, twins!!! way easier second time around, so there is that!! but until then, enjoy and sleep, sleep, sleep!

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Nina
Aug 31, 2013

I honestly have no idea why I did not do this with my first child, but with my second during night time feedings I would nurse her lying on my side and I would sleep and respond if she started squawking.

I am very much enjoying your baby posts and glad to hear that you are enjoying your lovely little boy.

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Leanne
Sep 01, 2013

Congrats!!! You have made it through the first month, which is the most shocking in my experience. The late nights are super tough, but you are right-- you will miss them. I used to read Ezra Klein's Wonklog out loud to my son; it helped me feel like I was in touch (I worked on Capitol Hill at the time), and hey! All that verbal acquisition for him!

Putting pants on the to-do list is both helpful and practical. I had "brush teeth" on mine for a while.

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Jenn Amano
Sep 03, 2013

In month three I bought a Nook and I read 50 (FIFTY!) books from May-December. That is a lot of eating and a lot of reading. Ha.

Enjoy those sweet baby snuggles. My 'baby' is walking now and won't sit still long enough for a snuggle most days. *sniff*

The sleep deprivation is so hard but it gets SO much better-my Naomi sleeps 14 hours/night now, and has since about 10 months old. I opened a small business. (not kidding!)

Thanks for sharing your beautiful baby boy with us. :)

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willikat
Sep 03, 2013

as mom of a nearly 8-month-old...it gets easier! i highly recommend cosleeping as a means to get more sleep. it's also delicious cuddles. it truly is the cumulative effect that gets you...but soon, soon, SOON it will get better. i liked the comment from the reader about how you will wake upa nd be astonished that six hours has gone by and your boobs will be sore and you will wake up your husband to tell him you've been SLEEPING! stuff i did in the middle of the night: caught up on blogs, facebook, news reading (on my iphone, i needed everything to be one-handed). played bejeweled blitz and bookworm heroes. gazed at that baby face. i can't believe ruby is almost eight months old now...it goes SO fast. blink of an eye. i miss those early days.
also, the pump is not so hard and doesn't hurt. nothing like learning to breastfeed. i highly recommend starting if you're returning to work. this is not a horror story, but when i returned to work my supply tanked and i have had trouble if she's not drinking directly from the tap. i wish i had pumped more when i had time to build a stash and a more fluid (ha!) supply amount, since i've had to take donor milk. it won't happen to you, i'm sure, but you will always be glad for the stash in the freezer, is my point. trust me on this.

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Wacky Mommy
Sep 04, 2013

I seem to recall watching episode after episode of the Sopranos. My poor babies, having that as background noise. The Kardashians must be soothing by comparison. Also recall eating a lot of sandwiches, cos you could do that one-handed. Also recall being *very* excited the two times I managed to get us showered, dressed and out of house... to walk dog to Starbucks and have coffee. Welcome to the time machine... he'll be in high school in 10 minutes.

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A kumquat
Sep 08, 2013

If you havent already, watch "Friday night lights". That was my nursing show for my last one. I don't even really care about sports or coaches but it was probably the best show I've ever seen. Tim Riggins - #33 on the field, #1 (shhh don't tell my kids/husband) in my heart.

Xox he's adorable.

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Shari
Sep 08, 2013

Crazy enough, all these comments and stories of late-night feedings are making me nostalgic. Like- wouldn't it be fun to have a third? Hmmm.... Maybe not. :) I think it was with my second that I had my iphone handy and most often spent my time on twitter during feedings. There are alot of 'groups' out there ... and it felt like I was able to connect with other mother's in the same boat. #zombiemoms is one I remember.... and #3amfc is another

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Pam
Sep 19, 2013

Oh dear Jesus, what a sweet face! Give him two ponies. And a Ferrari.
It's a yes on the Kindle for me as well. I thought I'd never give up holding a book in my hands and then my husband got me a Kindle eReader for Christmas a few years back. I think it took me three days to get used to it.

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jes
Sep 20, 2013

I used to read books, Facebook, Us Weekly, CNN, whatever held my interest - via my phone. Now, my 10-month-old can tell that I've got my phone on (I don't know if it's the reflection off my glasses, or if she can just see the light emitting out of her peripheral vision) and she de-latches to roll over and try to grab my phone. Which, you know, is kind of cute and annoying at the same time. She prefers that I stare (lovingly) into her eyes, which just makes her laugh, and laughing with a mouthful of milk is messy business.

All that to say, take heart: If you find yourself many months from now STILL trying to figure it all out, you won't be alone. ;)

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K
Oct 01, 2013

I'm kind of glad you've taken off pictures of your son (psst, evil eye and all -- yeah, I'm the quintessential old-fashioned old woman!).

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Jenna
Oct 03, 2013

I've lurked here for a long time, having found you through Amalah (and fallen in love with our shared design tastes). I say this because I fully realize I will sound very silly in a moment, as we've never met and I've never even commented, but I went to your Flickr to try and find photos of your home updates as I needed inspiration for my own and noticed they're all gone. And now I worry. Hope everything is alright with your lovely little family!

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Kristi
Oct 03, 2013

oh you got me with the Parents of Twins salute. :-)

i used to read your blot a lot (found you because you used to work for my wittle technology company here in dfw...). but then i had twins. ha.

i will echo everyone's comments about watching tv. i also turned into a pinterest addict. and facebook addict. and anything i could read on my phone addict once i was pumping a kajillion times a day at work. but it couldn't be anything that required actual concentration to understand because well, it just wouldn't work for a while.

i've been a new mom to a single baby like you - trying to figure it all out, and then a mom to twins - just trying to make it through half a day without crying. and now i laugh at how hard i thought the single baby was. it's all perspective. and you look like you're getting the hang of it. just keep thinking this: billions of moms have done this before me.

kristi
www.redheadrace.blogspot.com

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Kate
Oct 24, 2013

Just seeing this now because your site is somehow blocked at my office (where I guess maybe I shouldn't be reading blogs). Anyway, YES to the Kardashians! Is this like a maternity leave right of passage?

I NEVER watched reality TV. I never watched ANY TV really, save for Game of Thrones. But when I was on leave with my 3rd baby, I watched Keeping up with the Kardashians and all the various spinoffs all freaking day while nursing around the clock. I developed FEELINGS and OPINIONS about this family who I otherwise would not have cared a FIG about. I think it's probably just because it's on constant cycle on like 4 different channels, right?

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