It's A Normal Time Of Day Somewhere

I am writing this at 4am, where I am deep in the throes of jetlag. And while I know I'm supposed to hunker down and tough it out and try to visualize each part of my body relaxing one after the other so that I can fall back asleep again like they tell you to do in those meditation tapes, I have been awake since 1:30am at this point, and between you and me, it ain't gonna happen.

It is very discombobulating to wake up at 1:30am, by the way. It doesn't feel right. In my life, I am pretty sure I have gone to sleep at 1:30am way more times than I have woken up at 1:30am, and so I wasn't quite sure, when I leaned over a few hours ago and saw those unexpected numbers glowing back at me from my phone, what to do with that information. Sean was asleep like a normal person who does not wake up unbidden at 1:30am, so I considered getting on Twitter and finding someone to talk to. "Where my jetlagged peeps at?" I might have written. But then I realized I'd have to expand it to "where my half-drunk college peeps pulling an all-nighter at?" and "where my exhausted breastfeeding mothers at?" and "where my people who live in other countries where it isn't the middle of the night at?" and by that time I had exhausted both my tolerance for the word "peeps" and my willingness to end a sentence with a preposition. 

So, I am back from South Africa. Sorry for the radio silence over the last two weeks, and also for leaving up a super depressing blog post for the duration so that we might all be bummed out anew every time we happened to accidentally glance at it, but Internet access while we were away was mostly limited to what we could type hastily with one finger on an iPhone while navigating a tenuous wireless connection. Back in some dusty, super-organized part of my brain, I'd planned to write a bunch of posts in advance and just set them to publish every so often so you wouldn't even know I was gone, but in the last few days leading up to our departure, I became, instead, beset with anxiety that I wouldn't be allowed to enter South Africa, and instead spent the time in a Google wormhole, reading about people who had been turned away at immigration by unrelenting authorities and deported back to their countries on the next departing plane.

To enter South Africa, you see, the official party line is that you need to have two blank pages in your passport, a fact I didn't discover—god knows why, since I researched the hell out of everything else—until a couple of days before we left. I had exactly two blank pages, fortuitously enough, but on the back of one of them, a particularly exuberant immigration officer in Barbados had stamped my passport so vigorously that the ink bled through to the other side. Technically, it was blank—as in, it was unstamped—but to the naked eye, it had a big old ink blot on it, which was not the kind of thing I was looking forward to debating with a uniformed official in a foreign country after 36 hours of travel. Thus, I spent the last two days before we left San Francisco frantically googling highly specific things like "ink shows through on passport page, is it still considered blank?" and leaving anxious questions on TripAdvisor message boards to which a number of gleeful people replied super helpful things like "well, I guess you're about to find out!"  

Not to spoil the ending for you, but I made it into South Africa just fine; the immigration officer didn't even flip through my passport, just stamped it on a page that was crowded with stamps already and welcomed me into the country. 

Hey, turns out I was worrying about the wrong thing the whole time! Should have been expending all that energy on hoping my cat wouldn't die unexpectedly instead! 

Thank you, sincerely and from the bottom of my heart, for all your kind condolences on Charlie. Reading each comment and knowing that someone was thinking of us (and him) was a huge comfort while we were still reeling from the loss. I probably could have done without the one from the woman who told me I should "get some perspective" and that "he probably died because you made him wear that sweater"—no, actually, he died from severe pancreatitis and a complete shutdown of his liver and kidneys, and we had to make the agonizing decision to let him go via a series of devastating transatlantic phone calls with my distraught parents, but hey, I hope you feel better for kicking me while I'm down!—but the rest of you understood so compassionately why it might be upsetting to lose an adored pet unexpectedly when you're thousands of miles away and can't hold him in your arms and say goodbye, and I am so grateful for that. 

(Another part of this woman's comment, which flummoxed me entirely, was that she asked "how many people can afford to go to Paris or Cape Town right now?", a strange and accusatory non-sequitur that seemed to suggest she'd be more tolerant of my grieving if I was doing it from my own home, where I belonged, and not on a vacation for which we'd worked hard, created a careful budget, and done lots of good old-fashioned saving up. Look, I know I'm supposed to ignore incendiary comments like this and not let them tarnish the genuine goodwill of most people, and I am all about constructive criticism and lively debate as long as we can all be respectful of one another, but you know what, I really have trouble with someone coming into my space, hidden behind the anonymity of the Internet—although really, your traceable IP address paired with my tech-savvy husband means you are not as anonymous as you think—and saying something intentionally cruel and designed to hurt. I just don't want that here.) 

Oh look at that, the sun is rising and I'm still awake, and I haven't even started telling you about South Africa yet. If you are interested—and trust me, I will not be offended in the least if you want to sit out the 21st-century equivalent of me forcing you to view my vacation slides on the dusty screen in my poorly-ventilated basement—I have lots and lots of stories and photos and recaps to share, which will probably take us all the way through December. In the meantime, though, what have you been up to for the last two weeks? What have I missed? 

Dec 06, 2011

I am very excited to hear about your trip. Your instagram photos are just amazing. I'm sorry for the jerk people in the internet world who love to hide behind their great and powerful OZ curtains. It sucks that this happened to Charlie and that you weren't around to say goodbye. Here's hoping you get your normal sleep schedule back soon.

Dec 06, 2011

Again, my heart truly goes out to you. Thank you for sharing your life and adventures (good and bad) with us readers. The majority of us do really care about you!

Dec 06, 2011

Welcome back! You've been missed. And I will be reading each and every post about your trip! I love hearing your travel tales!

So sorry for the loss of Charlie and for the idiots lurking around the internet. :( Your cat will forever be remembered with love and kindness and for his exquisite taste in argyle.

Dec 06, 2011

I am also 1) very excited to hear about your trip, and 2) SO sorry about your cat. Losing a pet is an awful thing and most of us really do feel for you, despite the random jerks that like to show up and be cruel for no reason!

In other news, I was encountered this two-pages-necessary-in-your-passport ordeal but it was with Russia. And they mean business. You have to have two blank pages next to eachother to even get the visa, which the people running the program we were traveling with (through my university in Finland at the time), didn't know. You can imagine my enjoyment when I heard from them: "You're the first person in 7 years that's been rejected because of that!" I'm glad you had better luck that I did!

Dec 06, 2011

Welcome back! I can't wait to hear (and see) all about your South Africa adventures. I'm still so sorry about the loss of Charlie, and more sorry that you had to deal with the bitterness of a stranger on top of it. Ugh!

Dec 06, 2011

Jeez, unbelievable you got such a nasty comment! I'm really sorry for your loss by the way. I hadn't commented yet but I was thinking of you. I hope you're holding up; I know it can take a while. Looking forward to hearing all about your trip. Not much new here! Saw the Muppet Movie last night -- great songs.

Amy --- Just A Titch
Dec 06, 2011

Dear god, people are awful sometimes. I'm sorry about Charlie---how heartbreaking. I can't wait to see your photos!

Dec 06, 2011

I just recently found your blog (unfortunately, during your two weeks away so my first reading was your post about Charlie's passing). As a cat-lover (er...border-lined obsessed feline fanatic) I understand how you feel. Pets are our like our children, spouses, best friends in one. I recently had to euthanize my cat of 19-years. It was hard enough simply to do that. I can not imagine what it would have been like to make that decision from half way around the world and not had the chance to say goodbye.

As for those nasty commenters...who needs them!? Probably jealous of your amazing adventure. I, too, was fortunate enough to carefully plan and save for an almost 3-week trip to New Zealand and French Polynesia, despite the horrid economy. Everyone's circumstances are different. Why can't we just accept that and respect each other's life choices. More importantly, why is this person reading your blog if he/she thinks you live a much-too-extravagant lifestyle for his/her liking? Geez!

Dec 06, 2011

1-Welcome back! It's good to hear from you again :)
2-I need to find your instagram username...
3-I can't believe someone would say such a nasty comment! Seriously?? People just never stop surprising me...

Anyways, I'm glad you're back, and I'm excited to hear about your adventures in S.Africa!

Dec 06, 2011

Welcome back! I can't wait to hear about your trip. I am very sorry for your loss. It must have been especially hard for you, being so far away.
It's very difficult for me to understand why people feel compelled to be so nasty and bitter. It's not very healthy to carry around so much envy.

Dec 06, 2011

So excited to hear about the trip too, when I lived in London I had quite a few Saffer friends and am interested to see it through a new set of eyes!

Dec 06, 2011

Welcome back! I hope you are sawing logs right now even thought I can't wait to read about your adventures in Capetown. So sorry to hear about Charlie...wherever you are when you lose a cherished pet, it's sad (most of your readership knows this). I hope you still had a great time. Get some rest though...we don't want you to get sick again!!

Dec 06, 2011

I never read all the comments on that post, but someone actually said that? That makes me want to go find a torch and a pitchfork and form an angry mob on your behalf.

Dec 06, 2011

Oh, what a horrible woman!!! I am ever so sorry she felt the need to make you feel even worse about what is already so devastating. People who do not love their pets have no clue how awful it is when their short lifespan comes to an end. It's very very sad.

Dec 06, 2011

Chiming in to say, like everyone else, that I can't believe the, to use a P.Diddy term, 'bitchassedness' of some people. I hope their negativity and, again, bitchassedness, isn't getting you down.

My husband studied abroad in South Africa during university; it'll be interesting to learn from your posts/photos what's changed and what's stayed the same!

Dec 06, 2011

Oh Holly, I'm sorry that you got such a vile comment. It's horrible to lose a pet, period, and I can't imagine what kind of person would kick someone who's down.

Looking forward to your South Africa trip post!

Dec 06, 2011

Yay, you're back! We missed you! Welcome home.

Please ignore cruel and vicious people who never learnt that if you have nothing nice to say, then to shut the feck up!

Anyway, look forward to hearing about your hols, and sorry you couldn't sleep, but I'm glad it meant a new post.

When's the slideshow?

Dec 06, 2011

Oh dear God. Really???

Dec 06, 2011

I've gotten pretty nasty comments and while I can usually brush them off, the ones that are especially personal or come during a time when I'm particularly vulnerable (like when I've just given birth and am an sleep deprived emotional basket case) can really sting.

People get jealous. It happens to all of us. Lives can look so shiny when packaged on a well-written blog that it's easy to assume someone else's life must be so much easier/better/luckier. The bigger people rise above the jealousy and realize everyone is struggling with someone; no one's life is perfect. The smaller people among us just leave nasty, anonymous comments on the internet.

I'm so sorry about Charlie and that you weren't able to hold him and say good-bye. I'm sure he knew how cherished he was and felt your love even from all those miles away.

Dec 06, 2011

I now wish I'd been clever enough to make the comment about the sweater, but alas, I was not.

Glad someone else was able to make it for me.

Dec 06, 2011

Welcome back! Looking forward to hearing all about your trip.

Suzanne Young
Dec 06, 2011

I know this is just a repeat of your other readers, but...that lady is such a TOOL! It would have been one thing to leave a comment about the sweater if Charlie were alive and well. Perhaps it was intended as a joke, but to make such a rude comment after someone announces that their beloved pet has passed away in simply inexcusable! Did you even respond to her after that, or are you going to let her feel the slings and arrows of your readers who'd probably like to string her up by her toes and make her say "I'm sorry for being such a stupid, insensitive b*%#ch", over and over!

And no need to apologize for saving up and planning for a fabulous vacation. We should all have a vacation savings plan. Perhaps you can elaborate on how you did it!

Looking forward to your vacation recap and wishing you a good night's sleep very soon.

Dec 06, 2011

I'm really sorry about those shitty comments you got. Also. Half a tablet of Melatonin can be great for jetlag. xo xo.

Diane Harvey
Dec 06, 2011

Can't wait to hear all about your trip and I will be viewing all of your photos! I was so sorry to hear about your Charlie. (Been reading your blog for for well over a year now - love your writing and photos) It must have been very difficult for you and Sean to not be with him and sad for your Mom and Dad as well. I can't believe the comments of that hateful woman. How can someone think such thoughts? I'm joining Jenn and the angry mob on your behalf.

Dec 06, 2011

Okay, I'd like to leave a less bitter comment myself. ;>
I was so sorry to hear about Charlie. I can imagine the pain you both felt, an ocean away from him in his last hours. Cats, and dogs, can be a very special part of your family. I'm sorry for your loss.
Very excited to hear about South Africa! A continent I've never been to! I enjoy reading about your travels, which is part of what attracts me to your blog. My husband and I have been planning, saving for, and then enjoying trips for over a decade now - travel is one part of our relationship that we savor - and I like to read about your adventures. Then I start making plans for our next trip... ;> Totally worth it, isn't it?

Dec 06, 2011

So sorry for your loss and also for the person that left rude comments! Excited to see pictures from your trip!

Sarah Brown
Dec 06, 2011

Oh Holly... I didn't realize your "crying in restaurants on vacation" tweet was about the death of your cat, and now I am so embarrrassed for my reply! Lots of love to you both.

Dec 06, 2011

Just adding another "voice" to those who've already commented. I'm so sorry you lost a four-legged family member and that you were the target of that person's rudeness. I hope you take comfort in the collective disgust of your friends and blog followers.

Dec 06, 2011

Group Cheer ("Welcome Back!") for your safe, albeit sleepy and sad, return (Crazy how we can actually miss a complete stranger, eh?)

Group "Booo!" to the bitter, mean, and just all-around un-friendly commenter person (Really, people -- does the world need any more mean-spirited bitterness?)

And Group Hug for Holly and Sean (((Holly/Sean))) for coming home to a sadly Charlie-less house. (Plus an extra hug for mom and dad Burns who filled the role our high school-age son did one time when we were away and lost a cat -- tough stuff!)

Rest well, Holly. Your trip reports and pix will likely be as close as I'll ever get to visiting S. Africa, so by all means bring 'em on!!

Dec 06, 2011

I for one, would happily sit in your "basement' and watch 'slides" of your vacation....I actually used to love that! :) I tweeted back about Charlie (MrsViolet) but I really am so very sorry to hear. He was a lovely kitty and so sad to hear of his passing. Especially on your long-awaited vacation :( :( Rude people suck.

All that aside, I would really really LOVE to see many SA pictures. :) THe lions and cheetahs and elephants were amazing, from the pictures you put up so far!

Dec 06, 2011

My jaw literally dropped when I saw that nasty comment. So sorry that she didn't learn the old "if you don't have anything nice to say..."
I, for one, would sit in your basement and watch the slideshow. I love vacation pictures, even old style.
What have I been up to? Why, just ordering the second season of Downton Abbey from Amazon UK, that's what. And now, I am anxiously checking the mailbox every day. I may have to make myself that Dowager Countess hat for which I sent you the link. :)

Dec 06, 2011

So glad you are back, and I can't wait to read your South Africa stories! Your travel writing is some of my favorite. Hope your heart is healing from the loss of your sweet cat.

Dec 06, 2011

Re: nasty comment on your blog- what an absolute COW. Makes you wonder just how unhappy they must be to write something so horrible??

Once again- I'm very sorry for your loss, and I cant wait to hear about your adventure.

Welcome home.


Dec 06, 2011

Sometimes I just want to quit the internet. I'd never again have to deal with the kind of shitty comment you (unbelievably) received from that ... cretin. But since I can't/won't quit the internet, I think we should just agree to assume people who leave comments like that are completely insane. It's the only explanation.

Dec 06, 2011

I have loved reading your blog ever since your apartment was featured on Apartment Therapy and although I have never commented before, I wanted to express my condolences on the loss of your dear kitty, Charlie. I can't imagine losing my dog and having to make a decision about her life from so far away. How awful for you!

I'm aghast about the mean comment you received but your reply was simply brilliant. Bravo!

Dec 06, 2011

So very sorry about Charlie and also so sorry that it happened while you were on your trip. I know how hard you had worked on planning the trip and how upsetting his loss must have been.
Can't wait to hear of your adventures in South Africa and hope the jetlag goes away soon.

Dec 06, 2011

I've been reading your site for a while and love it! Felt the need to comment for the first time today...I am so sorry for your loss. People will never understand losing a pet unless they too have gone through the awful experience themselves. It makes it even more difficult when uncaring friends/family/strangers make us feel like we shouldn't be so upset because "it's only an animal". They're just ignorant. And about South Africa, haters gonna hate! Poor lady, she sounded jealous of your travels and probably envious of the love you clearly had for Charlie. She's a lonely "internet troll" desperately seeking admiration. Personally, I can't wait to read all about your adventures!! :)

Jen (The Trephine)
Dec 06, 2011

You'd better not still be crying all self-indulgently over there. Some people don't even have clean water to drink and then cry back out of their faces.

Dec 06, 2011

So sorry about Charlie. It's heartbreaking that you couldn't be there with him. I agree with Dearwendy up there. Sometimes it is just not possible to deal with negative comments like that. You should get Sean to delete it for you so you don't have to look at it again.

Glad you are back.

Pretzel Thief
Dec 06, 2011

Grrrrrr...stupid cow! Don't you just love people who hate themselves that much and have such inferiority complexes that they'll say such awful, mind-boggling things?


As everyone has said, don't worry about such small, pathetic people. Karma is a bitch.

So sorry once again about Charlie...sniff!

Can't wait to hear all about your overseas adventure(s) and glad you and Sean landed safe and sound. Hope the jetlag goes away post-haste!

Dec 06, 2011

Well, not trying to compete with you on the depressing topics, but my grandmother died on Thanksgiving day, and right after coming home from the funeral I got the flu and have been sick ever since. In other words, I'd like to hear about your trip to South Africa, please. 8-)

Dec 06, 2011

Welcome back!! Can't wait to read all about your trip.
And I'd go on and on about that nasty comment but I won't spend the energy on such an awful person.
Sorry again for the loss of your beautiful Charlie.

Dec 06, 2011

Welcome back, looking forward to hearing about your trip. I love trip slideshows in musty basements...totally my scene.
I'm sorry about Charlie and that there are some truly insensitive people out there.

Dec 06, 2011

Welcome back!!! You were missed!!! I can't wait to see the pictures ;)

Dec 06, 2011

Awww, sad, your loss of Charlie. Obviously, "Sally" is not an animal lover, judging by the comment. Hell, he/she/IT, is likely not even a lover of people. More than likely akin to, (or, one and the same, even) as the ill individual who recently purloined your identity. What's w/ those who have to flaunt their bitterness in the comment section of blogs or online forums? That was rhetorical, BTW! :)

Anyway! It's good to see you back. Can't wait to read/see the details of your vacation. Hope after the jetlag fades you'll feel somewhat refreshed and your spirits will be bolstered when going through your holiday memories and pics!

Dec 06, 2011

I have read your site for years (since you were in Charleston). I have never commented before, because it isn't really my thing. I felt like I had to chime in this time though.
I will never understand why some people need to be so incredibly vile. Why on earth make the effort and expend the energy to add such ugliness and spite to the world? I just don't get it.
I am so sorry that you lost Charlie, and even sorrier that you had to make such a decision when you were away. I can't imagine how awful that must have been. I am in a similar position with my sweet dog, so my heart really goes out to you. I am sure that Charlie had a wonderful life, and you should take comfort knowing that he no longer feels sick or is in pain.

Dec 06, 2011

I agree with Jen. Stop complaining about crying your eyes out. You know, some people don't even HAVE eyes.

Dec 06, 2011

I'm so sorry you had to deal with such hideous comments at a tragic time for you and Sean. The loss of Charlie would have been hideous regardless but I'm sure it was harder still from afar without some arsehole commenters.

I hope you managed to have a happy trip as much as it was possible under the circumstances. Take care of yourselves x

Chrissy (The New Me)
Dec 06, 2011

I'm so sorry for the loss of Charlie, and even sorrier that some jerky Internet asshat made such terrible comments. I'm looking forward to more about your (much deserved, I am sure!) trip to South Africa. Hope you get un-jetlagged soon!

Dec 06, 2011

I've been thinking about y'all! I'm sorry for your heartache with the loss of sweet Charlie.

I am fascinated by the idea that you are out of pages on your passport! Thank you for sharing your adventures!

Dec 06, 2011

Oh man! I can't wait to see all your pictures and read all your stories!

I can't say much about "her." I cannot imagine how agonizing that was. I for one am very much looking forward to your slideshow!! :D

Dec 06, 2011

I am really excited to hear about the trip! I will be that freakshow that looks at Every! Single! Photo!

PS I am sending you a bag of very, very expensive nuts for Christmas. You might want to eat them one nut at a time because really $5 is VERY EXPENSIVE.

(She can BITE ME.)

Tracy D
Dec 06, 2011

Wow Simon and Jen. Really?


So glad you're back - Ye Olde Internette has been far duller without you.

And people can be sucktastic. Good on you for seeing that for what it is, and we all have your back.

Jen (The Trephine)
Dec 06, 2011

Also, some of the thirsty eyeless people are orphans. Just think of it for a minute, will you: Sad, blind orphans, too dehydrated to express their emotions properly. Now that's terrible.

Nothing But Bonfires
Dec 06, 2011

Tracy D, not to worry, Simon and Jen are friends! We just have a running joke.

Dec 07, 2011

Welcome back!
Can't wait to hear your travel stories and see photos of South Africa, would love to go there one day so it will be brilliant to hear and see how you found it.
Nasty internet trolls are like schoolyard bullies and karma is a bi-atch.

Dec 07, 2011

PS. How is little Sadie? She must be missing Charlie so much too. Extra cuddles & Whiskas for her I'm sure.

Jen Allen
Dec 07, 2011

Yaaaay, you're back! Really missed your musings, and was so so sorry to hear about your beloved Charlie. He was one cool cat.
Hope you get some sleep soon, and give no more thought to that total B*TCH :-) Mindboggling how someone could be so cruel.
Welcome back!

Dec 07, 2011

We recently had to put a pet down and we were here and it totally sucked. I can't imagine how much more brutal it would've been to had to have made that decision from thousands of miles away without having been able to say goodbye properly.

I'm so sorry!

Also, I can't even begin to fathom what is wrong with those people. SERIOUSLY.

Jennifer R
Dec 07, 2011

Well first of all, welcome home and that woman can get bent
Second, still sorry for your loss. I had my longtime pet die on my birthday, it always stinks when a pet dies.

I can't wait to hear about your travels
The only thing that has happened here in two weeks is more two year old toddler tantrums...

Dec 07, 2011

So sorry again for the loss of your cat, but glad you had a good time without passport issues. I can relate (sort of) as my husband's passport has been with the Saudi Arabian embassy waiting for them to approve a work visa and we can't book flights to Hawaiian (for another work trip but much nicer) without it back!
Can't wait to see the recaps!

Katie Hammel
Dec 07, 2011

Holly, I was so sorry to hear about Charlie. I can only imagine how hard I'll cry when I have to say goodbye to my girls, and it's so awful that it had to happen when you were so far away.

As for that horrid woman, try not to think about it. There's no excuse for some people and it's not worth the energy wondering why she'd be so intentionally hurtful.

Dec 07, 2011

Ditto to all of comments about that awful woman's comment. Where do these terribly unhappy people come from anyway? Although sometimes (not in the case of your dear, sweet Charlie), these troll-y comments can ensue in hilarity (I am a longtime reader and vividly remember the Nothing But Bonfires Crack Whore debacle).

I would love to see / read about your trip! Welcome home! And, did your ink-blotted passport get a raised eyebrow at least? Or was it totally fine?

Dec 07, 2011

Sorry, ignore, I missed the little paragraph about the passport officer merrily stamping your passport anyway.

Dec 07, 2011

i absolutely hate nasty commenters. ignore her/him.

jet lag is part of the travel experience, is it not? along with exasperatingly long lines at immigration and trying to 'smuggle' bottles of expensive wine and bags of duty free.

can't wait to hear all about South Africa.

Dec 07, 2011

I'm sure it's already been commented on, but I rather like Charlie's sweater. I find it quite dashing.

Jenn A.
Dec 07, 2011

I'm glad you're back! I can't wait to hear about your trip. And as for that mean commenter, I say down with the haters!

Dec 07, 2011

Welcome home. I am so sorry for your loss of a beloved kitty. Charlie was a beauty. We lost our dog in August and I'm still not over it.

I cannot believe the nerve of someone kicking you when you are down...what a wench! Hugs to you both, and I can't wait to hear all about your travels.

Dec 07, 2011

Hi Holly! I'm glad you're back. I've missed reading your posts. I've been fine, thanks. : )

I'm sorry about that mean woman. I hope your 1:30am this morning is more restful and you don't think about her anymore.

Dec 07, 2011

I specifically came here because I wanted to see if you were okay. So sorry to hear your grief was compounded by such an insensitive and needless remark. (Having once lost a pet while abroad myself, I kept thinking of your homecoming...and how deeply I felt my late dog's absence -all over again - when I returned home. Ugh. I am so sorry if you suffered the same drop in your gut.) Thinking of you both & hoping you continue to take care.

Dec 08, 2011

hi, glad to see that you are back safe and sound. I'm sorry about Charlie, and that the insensitive remarks made by that horrendously mean woman has only added to your grief. But know that while he was ill, he had your parents who also loved him as much as you did taking care of him.

Dec 08, 2011

Welcome back, Holly. Here’s a limerick of sorts for Charlie. My way of saying I’m sorry for your loss.

There was a cat named Charlie,
Who was loved by Sean and Holly,
Along came the day,
He had to go away,
Goodbye Charlie cat, you’re missed sorely.

Dec 08, 2011

I can't wait to view photos and read stories!! Welcome home!

Karin Maier
Dec 09, 2011

That woman is a n00b. I only learnt this word yesterday, which is lucky as it sums her up nicely. People who are anonymously mean are the pits. I too am sorry about Charlie.

Alicia C.
Dec 09, 2011

I still hold to the if you dont have anything good to say, dont say anything at all! Although I think Clairee's line in Steel Magnolias is pretty funny, I am sorry that people feel the need to be so cruel. So sorry about Charlie.

Glad to hear that you had a great time! Looking forward to the pictures!

Dec 09, 2011

How dare that woman be so rude to you?! That's mean at any time, let alone when you'd just had to cope with saying goodbye to your cat from overseas. Don't let it get to you... she's just a miserable old hag. I was suffering with jet lag last week so I feel your pain! A walk in the midday sunshine helps a lot.

Dec 09, 2011

What an awful person.
I'm preggo and super hormonal right now and every time I saw the Charlie post I welled up thinking about what I'm going to do when that time comes for our chubby bulldog. I am going to be heartbroken... and here we go again with the weepiness...
I can't imagine someone making it worse.
What's the cyber version of punching someone in the nose? That's what she deserves.

Dec 10, 2011

I know it's easier said than done, but try not to let other people's nasty views get to you. I know what it is like to loose a treasured pet, how upsetting it is especially when you are not around to say goodbye. We lost our beautiful dog Cocoa once for a week and I franticly roamed the streets searchinf for her. We found her thank God but not long after,my mum put her down without telling anyone as she was very ill at the time. I was so upset I did not get to pet her one last time.
There will always be begrudgers who want to make you miserable as they are and all we can do about them is to let it in one ear and out the other! At least your cat is no longer suffering and you have some fantastic photos to remember him by. So F**K the begrudgers and keep your chin up. All the best, Ruth.

Sensibly Sassy
Dec 11, 2011

Ya know,its funny how people think they can use others pain as a means to feel self righteous. And when I say funny I don't mean it as in haha but as in I hope that commenter steps on a rake. It breaks my heart you had to make such a difficult decision while so far from Charlie but I have no doubt he knows how much he was loved.

I can't wait to hear your trip recap :) Not much has been going on here while you were gone-oh wait, scratch that-I saw Roger Sterling filming what I think is a car commercial at ocean beach :)

Dec 11, 2011

Funny, Boyfriend and I also took a much-needed, and also much-budgeted-and-planned-for trip to Amsterdam & Paris over Thanksgiving, so I guess that makes at least TWO of us who can afford such luxurious trips right now! Shame on us and all the OTHER American tourists we encountered on our travels!

So sorry to hear about your cat--I cannot even begin to imagine how hard it was for you to be on the other side of the world & having to enjoy your vacation while grieving your little family member. At least he was in the arms of your loving parents and not at some kitty hotel...On the positive side, though, looking forward to hearing about your trip!

Dec 15, 2011

A raelly good answer, full of rationality!

Jan 06, 2012

I was so sorry to hear about your cat, and even more about the mean comments. I have a dog with pancreatitis and it is agonizing whenever she gets sick, and I hate to imagine having to make such a painful decision when I couldn't be with her... my heart goes out to you both.

Dec 20, 2012

Победа обычно следует за проигрышем. Я никогда не встречал людей, которые полюбили кого-то, но чьи сердца не разбивались бы никогда прежде. И я никогда не встречал кого-то богатого, кто никогда бы не терял деньги.

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