Notes From The Road

I cannot abide a seat kicker. Seat kickers should be strung up by their seatbelts and forced to watch Bride Wars repeatedly on a flickering screen the size of a postage stamp. Seat kickers should be force-fed six dollar "breakfast snack packs" until the bile rises in their throats after one too many slices of Hormel meat.

I am on an early morning flight from San Francisco to Dallas and I have a seat kicker. I inhale deeply. I exhale deeply. What would Oprah do in this situation? I think. Oprah, I think, would be serene. I inhale deeply again. I turn around. I have a smile on my face the size of Texas---appropriate, as that's where I'm going---and I use my most polite, most English, most Kate Winslet-like voice.

"I'm so sorry," I say. "I'm sure you don't realize it, but you're kicking my---"

"Haven't touched it," snaps the man.

"What's the problem here?" barks his wife, flipping her head up from her magazine, her face an enormous frown.

The two of them stare at me, uncompromising. We are starting to attract interested looks from other passengers.

"Oh," I say. "I just said that I'm sure you didn't realize it, but you were kicking my seat."

"Haven't touched it," repeats the man.

"He hasn't touched it," confirms his wife, and now her arms are crossed across her chest in defiance. "Your seat is probably just wobbly."

"Yeah," I say. "My seat is probably just wobbly. That's probably it."

I turn back around. The kicking continues.


In Dallas, I have forty minutes to get from Terminal D to Terminal A, where I am catching my connection to Tulsa. I have never been to Tulsa; in fact, I have never been to Oklahoma. Oklahoma will be my thirty-fourth state. For a while, I believe that Oklahoma will be my thirty-sixth state, but this is while I am still under the impression that I have been to Arkansas. After a little while, however, doubt about my presence in Arkansas begins to creep in. We've driven across the country three times in nine years, taking slightly different routes every time. Have I been to Arkansas, or do I just think I've been to Arkansas? I have to admit, after some time spent trying to summon up any memories I might have of Arkansas, that I have probably not been to Arkansas after all.

Okay, I think, then Oklahoma will be my thirty-fifth state.

I look again at my list. Arkansas has made me nervous. Nebraska, all of a sudden, is starting to seem suspicious.

I IM Sean. "Have I been to Nebraska?" I type.

"Yes," he types back.

Good, I think. So I have been to Nebraska.

"Wait, no" he types two seconds later. "I've been to Nebraska."

Thirty-fourth, then. Oklahoma will be my thirty-fourth state.


At the gate, a younger woman is giving an older woman suggestions for her trip to Tulsa.

"Tucci's," she says. "You have to go to Tucci's. Write it down. It's like Gucci's but with a T."


In Oklahoma, the sky is so big. We drive and drive and the country opens up, all greens and blues, and I think why didn't I know about this? Oklahoma is hillier than I thought it would be and also wider. "Yes, ma'am," says a man to me when I ask him a question. The land sprawls out in front of us and behind us as we carve deeper into the countryside; we're the only people for miles around.


That night, we meet Cowboy Josh. He tries to get me to eat calf fries.

"Calf fries!" I say. "Those sound like fun. What are they?"

"Bull nuts," he says. "The balls of a bull."

There is some discussion about whether or not I will try the ball of a bull if he brings one over. "I've got some in the freezer," he says. "We'll just put it in a pot of water and defrost it."

Jenny declares that she will try the bull ball. Karen, a vegetarian, declares that she will try the bull ball too. Can I be upstaged by a vegetarian when it comes to eating bull balls? I decide that I cannot. "I will also try the bull ball," I say. Carpe diem and all that.

But the plan slowly disintegrates, as plans like this often do. The bull ball in the freezer is too far away to go and fetch, it is decided, the defrosting process too arduous. Next time, we say, we'll do it next time. Bull balls for everyone! It's a date.


In the Tulsa Airport on the way home, a gate agent goes bar to bar, warning passengers that their flight is about to board. How about that for some service.


In Dallas, I have two and a half hours until my flight to San Francisco. I wander around, considering all the healthy options for dinner, and suddenly it occurs to me that I could do something very naughty. Who would know if I went to McDonalds? It must be time for my annual pilgrimage anyway. 

At the counter, I discover that it's impossible to order a meal with just one cheeseburger; a person has to order a #1 combo, which comes with fries, a drink, and two cheeseburgers.

"But I only want one cheeseburger," I tell the 12-year-old behind the register.

"Then only order one cheeseburger," he says.

I order only one cheeseburger, the smallest fries, and the smallest drink. It works out more expensive than if I had just ordered the #1 combination meal with two cheeseburgers.

But then: grease and salt and pickles, intermittent sips of an ice-cold diet Coke. I can see why people who quit smoking have a sneaky cigarette now and then. The sweet, soft bread of a McDonalds bun reminds me of being seven and eight and nine: sitting on a beach in Hong Kong at sunset, the glow of the golden arches behind us. The food tastes exactly the same. The beauty is that the food has always tasted exactly the same.


Sean picks me up in San Francisco at 11:30pm and I am exhausted, beyond exhausted, my contact lenses sticking to my eyes like packing tape, a suspicious soreness in my throat. I have been away for 36 hours, taken four planes, driven 200 miles, walked twice through security checkpoints in my bare feet. I down a glass of water, throw my clothes on a chair, speed-brush my teeth, and fall, gratefully, into bed. Three best words in the English language: your own bed.

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Amy---Just A Titch
Jun 11, 2010

This is lovely, Holly. One of my favorites you've written in awhile.

Jun 11, 2010

What a great post. :) Little glimpses of your trip, so much fun! I can't wait to see your video. :)

Jun 11, 2010

(also, how do you ask yourself What would Oprah do? without thinking of that episode of 30 Rock in which Tracy Morgan channels Oprah? "What would Oprah DOOOOoooooooo?" If you don't know what I'm talking about, well that is very sad indeed. Unless I missed some long-back post about how you hate 30 Rock or something, in which case I'll feel silly. But I'll still be laughing at Tracy Morgan.)

Jun 11, 2010

Beautiful. I really love this.

Also: "What Would Oprah Do" never really works, because Oprah would either take her own jet or be in first class where the person behind her would be paralyzed with fear that he/she *might* accidentally upset Oprah by kicking her seat. (The same thing actually applies to "What Would Jesus Do," because when I try to ask myself what He would do in certain situations I realize He had 12 disciples to deal with Things of That Nature. So what we really need is some disciples!)

Also X2: "Three best words in the English language: your own bed." YES totally agree!

Laura B.
Jun 11, 2010

I love your reflective posts. For some reason this reads like one of your age remembering posts (i.e. 16, etc), which are my absolute favorites. Glad you made it back in one piece. Can't wait to see the video from the PW ranch!

Sarah Brown
Jun 11, 2010

Oh man, I forgot Tucci's!

Maybe your seat really was wobbly? I only say this because on our overnight flight from NY to London last fall, Nick turned around to the class trip of high school girls behind him and gave them a big angry lecture about their seat kicking. They denied all wrongdoing. He kept turning around and glaring and they kept whispering and I pretended to just watch my movie instead. Then, he whirled around to catch one in the act and realized the seat was empty; she'd gone to the bathroom. So then he ate crow and gave them a very polite apology.

Sarah Brown
Jun 11, 2010

P.S. I had lamb fries at age 19 and won a T-shirt for doing so. I don't even remember what they tasted like, so it couldn't have been too bad.

Jun 11, 2010

Wait, there are GROWN UP PEOPLE who kick airplane seats? SHAME and FIE on them. FIE!

Jun 11, 2010

I've never heard them called Calf Fries. Out west they are commonly called "Rocky Mountain Oysters" - fools some tourists who think they're ordering westernized sea food. lol

Jun 11, 2010

Be nice to the kickers! I mean, the couple did sound like a pair of jerks, so I'm not excusing them.

BUT! My husband is 6'4 and we always try to get into the emergency exit row so that he can have leg room, but if we can't he's going to wind up with his legs pressed against the seat in front of him no matter what he does. There's just no room for people as big as him. And if he moves, then it's going to feel like he's kicking the seat in front of him to the person sitting in that seat. But he's not! He's just a big tall person who has no room in his seat.

As for WWOD (what would oprah do), I'm pretty sure she'd take her own jet. And just as soon as we win the lottery, we'll start taking a private jet!

Jun 11, 2010

I love this post. Only you can pair glowing sunset and glowing arches to make a McDonald's bun poetically nostalgic. Well done.

And, for the record, fried bull balls (called Rocky Mountain Oysters in Colorado, where I first braved them) are yum.

Jun 11, 2010

You´re an excellent writer, Holly. This is beautiful.

Jun 11, 2010

If you face that McDonalds cheeseburger dilemma again, just get the happy meal - one cheeseburger, small fries, and a small drink - and it would be cheaper than ordering all of it separately.

When I grow up, can I be you? The writer you, of course.

Jun 11, 2010

Holly, such a fantastic post. I'm sorry to say though that the thought of the Seat Kicker And His Horrible Wife in the first story forced me to gouge out my own eyeballs thus making it very difficult to read on.

I think you should definitely market some What Would Oprah Do? bracelets.

Jun 11, 2010

You know who else is annoying on planes? The people who heave themselvs out of their seats by pulling on the top of the seat in front of them? Or who pull on each seat top in turn as they slide across to the window seat. DUDE. I AM SITTING HERE.

Anne in SC
Jun 11, 2010

I totally would have reclined ALL the way back on the seat kicker. I probably would then have reclined the seat next too me all the way back too, if it were empty. And then, if the kicking continued you could have opened the air vent and blown it in their general direction.

Oooh - what else could you have done? I am all of a sudden a bit pissed. RUDE, Rude, people!

Sarah Brown
Jun 11, 2010

I have to admit, sometimes when the person in front of me is really far reclined or talking loudly, I slouch in my seat and press my knees into theirs. NOT KICKING, but still.

Nothing But Bonfires
Jun 11, 2010

Oh sure, me too.

Jun 11, 2010

This is so lovely. You are such a terrific writer. I agree with Laura B.--reminds me of your age memory posts, which are so, so wonderful too.

Sensibly Sassy
Jun 11, 2010

Sending you a high five for this post. Really enjoyed it, it read almost like a novel. Left me saying...what happens next?

Jun 11, 2010

Sometimes I envy your travels and jet set lifestyle, then I read your wonderful posts and they seem so real, I remember it's hard being away from home too. Love your writing.

Jun 11, 2010

When you pass through DFW, I get so excited to think the fabulous "Holly" is just that close!
Rest up!

Jun 11, 2010

My son is two years old. He thinks kicking seats is the best thing ever. I think it's extremely rude. On a flight to Seattle I held/pinned down his feet for three hours so he could not kick the person in front of him. Shame on that rude man, perhaps he should travel with his mother so she can keep him in line.


Next time? We're SO having a bull ball.

Franca Bollo
Jun 11, 2010

I went to school with a woman who claims to have castrated lambs with her teeth. Really.

Jun 11, 2010

Still think you should have tried the bull balls. If Andrew Zimmerman can do it, so can you and Karen!

Shayla Perry
Jun 11, 2010

Isn't it so comforting to know that wherever you go in the world, that cheeseburger and fries will always be the same-- whether you got the deal on 2 or splurged for 1? :)

Jun 11, 2010

Wonderful writing! Looks like you had a great holiday in Oklahoma. One of my favorite states, except I don't think I'll ever travel through the Tulsa International Airport again. Unless my life depended on it, because the security agents there were pretty, um, racist towards me.
Truly though, I love Oklahoma. Never had calf fries, though.

Jun 12, 2010

Even in Hawaii, and not really wanting to leave, it's hard to resist the magnetism of "your own bed."

Jun 12, 2010

Thanks for sharing about the McDonald's. It makes me feel better about my occasional splurge.

Also, you really inspire me to write better. You make everyday incidents so interesting. :)

Jun 12, 2010

Oh, I just love the way you write.

Jun 13, 2010

1. Work up a big mouthful of spit.

2. Turn around and "sneeze" as hard as you can over the back of your seat.

3. Inform the person sitting behind you that you are allergic to having your seat kicked.

Jun 13, 2010

I just love reading about your travels. Sorry about the jerk and his jerky wife, though.

Jun 13, 2010

Oprah would be in first class where seat kicking is not possible without some serious effort.

Wonderful writing! Your blog is always fun to read!

Jun 14, 2010

beautifully written!
And seat kickers are the worst but a close second is the personal tv monitor jabber - you know the guy behind you who thinks the touch screen must be jabbed at repeatedly to figure out what he wants to watch. I had this on a flight to San Diego last week.
Oh and one more annoyance on planes (because I've been on a lot lately) - the person in the seat behind you who thinks they need to grab the back of your seat and hold on to enter or exit their own seat.

Jun 14, 2010

Sure, this was beautiful and all that, but I needed to come back A WHOLE DAY after I read this to tell you that I have repeated "I will also try the bull ball" in my head about a hundred times and I laugh with glee everytime. Really, I've not read a more perfect sentence ever. In life.

Kerri Anne
Jun 17, 2010

Oh! Seat kickers! It's one thing to be tall and accidentally kick someone's seat. Quite another to pretend as if you didn't kick someone's seat when clearly you did.

Also: this was lovely. I love travel stories, foreign and domestic.

Camels & Chocolate
Jun 25, 2010

Oooh I've missed these kind of posts of yours. Bring them back! This was wildly fun and entertaining.



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カシオ 時計
Oct 29, 2013

あなたはあなたがあなたの製品やサービスを表示し、人々は入札を選択するのを待っている時間を失うことを可能にするオークションサイトに登録することができます。。彼または彼女は取ったピースツアー nufactured フランス ジロ驚くべき知恵として。モンクレール ダウン シャツやポリエステルと綿充填推奨を信頼するのではなく彼が作った物競争モーター バイク項目圧縮スーパー トップですがさらにショート パンツのような使用し、自分仕立てで身体の動きを容易にする gusseting の治療します。
カシオ 時計

カシオ 時計
Oct 29, 2013

流行パターンとともに文化の弁護人を生成するには、クロエ パディントンとのだれでもをつかみます。標準にはサックスしないだけそのアベニュー、プラダ、ガイド、バーニーのまたは他の何かが含まれます。100 以上のデザイナー ショップがある、カバゾンに含まれて離れてとまる。このバッグを確保するための少年に女性から決定されます。それは完全にあなたならたくさんプラダハンドバッグ吸血鬼パーティー、広くきれいな胃の上部に終わるつもりトッズ財布およびハンドバッグ。
カシオ 時計

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