What I'd Say If We Were Writing Our Own Vows

Yeah, this was so good.

We did write our own vows and I mentioned The Office in them, but I also said -- at the very end -- that he was the best decision I ever made. And I have to re-make that decision on a daily basis because MY GOD how can one man enjoy the Discovery channel so damn much?

But, really, this was so lovely. The entire Internet can't wait for you two to get married. I think we'll collectively crash your flickr site, refreshing and refreshing and refreshing in hopes of seeing a picture of the big day.

That was so incredibly wonderful - and I did NOT vomit, I sighed in agreement because feeling that way about someone is the greatest thing in the world. You're going to make a really wonderful wife because as funny as all of those things you wrote were, those are the things that really do matter....that was really sweet!

...oh and I love reading about other couple's quirks; my guy's chips are dill....and I get him those gross things even when they're not on sale ;)

I love this SO much!

How lovely is this? And good call on avoiding "hubs" and "hubby." I HATE those words. "Prego" is right up there with them. Ack.

Absolutely beautiful vows, Holly. Sean is a lucky man. I'm sure his written vows to you would be just as sweet (and "sweet" just isn't strong enough a word to capture what I mean).

Congratulations to you two! I wish you both a wonderful wedding day and a beautiful marriage. I think if you commit to those vows it's inevitable!

Yes. Just... yes.

Awwww, the sweetness!

This was perfect. About 89.9% of it is what I would say too. Fantastic.

That was the BEST, SWEETEST, most inspiring study break/distraction ever!

Love that. I kind of want to rewrite my own vows now and redo it. Too bad the wedding was 8 months ago. So much for timeliness.

Love, love, love this post...

I only hope that if I'm lucky enough to get married someday, I can come up with something as touching, heartfelt and honest as this...even if we never say it to each other formally...

I loved it. Especially the part about not using the words "hubs" or "hubby" because those two words make my skin crawl.

The internet is so happy for you both! (I hope that sounds heartfelt and not creepy.)

that was lovely and honest and real and obviously heartfelt. you guys are lucky to have each other and I hope to be able to feel that same way about somebody someday.

good luck with all the frantic last-minute prep!

Hi Holly

congratulations, sounds like you and your fiance are a good catch! for each other hehe!!!!

your vows are so sweet!!

I think you've just restored my faith in love, marriage, and other vomit-inducing ephemera.

"damn, I got the best one..." clinched it. :)

Wishing you two the best!

Perfect!

(I'd leave out the part about the Internet vomiting, though... you know, that's just weird, saying that in church....)

;-)

hate you guys <3
This just makes me think "where is my person?!"

It's official. I want to do it all over again. Only this time...I'll do it right. Seems like you figured it out first time out of the gate.

Kudos and best wishes!

Excellent and actually VERY romantic...in a 2009 kind of way..:*)

Sounds like you guys are on the right track for having everything fall into place....can't wait to see the pictures...I can't believe I am so invested in a wedding of two people I've never met....the internet is weird like that!

PS - We were married in 2005, by a friend of ours (we all met in school) and my then fiance (now husband) actually asked me (in hushed tones, thank f*ck) at the end of my vows...if my vows also included more blow jobs!?! I cracked up....our officiant cracked up....and thankfully the crowd was none the wiser...and I still married the punk!

Aw, this is the best! I have been reading your blog for years and this might be my favorite thing you've ever written. It so perfectly captures the little details that make a relationship work.

I also have been reading your blog for years. This is your best entry to date!! love love it!

Now I kinda want to get married. Maybe. Just a little bit.

I love you two and cannot wait to see where this next step takes you.

Here's me, wishing you'd gotten married a year before me so I could totally copy these vows :)

They are perfect :)

This is so sweet and lovely, I just know you two are going to have a wonderful marriage.

Best, most honest vows I've ever read. You are so ready for this.

I am not ashamed to admit that I got a little teary-eyed reading this. Congratulations.

its all those little things that matter most <3

you are both wonderful together!

Man, you just get it. So very excited for you guys!

So sweet!

So wonderful!
So...when are the two of you getting married? (just kidding. After re-reading, my comment just doesn't look as funny as I thought it may - sorry).
But seriously - those are wonderful vows.

Um, you definitely made me cry my eyes out here. You two are so cute, and this entry is so adorable. I am just so darn happy for you both!

Perfect, lovely vows. I am so excited for the both of you.
Also, I just knew you would be an anti-"hubs" or "hubby" person, and I like you all the more for it! Those words seriously make my skin crawl. And ditto, Janssen, on "preggo." And while we're at it...why do couples say "we're pregnant"? I'm pretty sure only one of you is pregnant.

But I digress.... :)

Now those are vows I can get behind. The traditional, boring, "better or worse" vows should be a given. These are real, beautiful, and true and I'm so hoping you're actually doing these for your wedding. Though most everyone will have already read this. Can you do another?

You know how sometimes you go to a wedding but you're not quite sure if the couple is actually right for each other, and although you'd never say it out loud you think that maybe the marriage won't last and you try to have a good time but the day is kind of spoiled because of the lingering uneasiness you feel?

But THEN there are those weddings that are so filled with joy because you know without a doubt that the couple you're celebrating with are well and truly meant for one another and also have the right stuff to weather even the difficult times, so the party is that much more spectacular and jubilant?

I'm going to go out on a limb here and say that your wedding falls distinctly into the second category.

I hope you both enjoy the party as much as your guests will!

We're doing the traditional vows in our ceremony, the ones taken from the 1662 Book of Common Prayer (so "wilt thou take this woman?" and "to thee I plight my troth" and "with this ring I thee wed" and all that), which I actually think are the most beautiful of all, even more so because we took them from a BOPC that my dad gave me a few weeks ago that has my great-great grandmother's name and the date 1888 inscribed in the front. So those are definitely more meaningful to me. The above was meant to be more of a funny, jokey thing! I don't think I'd actually ever say them in a public setting. Um, in a public setting that wasn't the Internet, I mean.

Will your BoCP vows include "obey?"

Aww, that's so darn sweet!
Hmmm, maybe I'll "borrow" that for our 4 year anniversary card :)

Holly, this is wonderful! <3

Love this. Love it, love it, love it.

We just last night finalized our vows. We are writing them ourselves, but they are mostly pretty basic things about respecting the other as an equal, being honest, communicating openly, staying together in sickness and health, etc. And then we each threw in one funny thing - mine for him being about promising to let him play video games all day, ONE day of the weekend, without complaint. I think its a good balance between mushy and funny.

I'm 48 now, and married my husband at age 33. I would encourage you to hold on to the vows you wrote today...these are the vows you need to remember in 15 years. This is exactly what loving and honoring one another means! So even though you just meant it to be funny (which it is), it is also very true. And as you grow older and more set in your ways it's very easy to forget this.
BTW, how exactly do you pronounce "troth"?

Simon, I took out "obey." Love, cherish, honor, and keep -- for both of us.

So sweet!

I'm so excited for you and Sean! You guys are the cutest and I'm so happy for both of you!

Aaaaaaaaaaand I'm tearing up at my desk. So happy for both of you. I started reading your blog around the time Sean proposed. You two are too cute.

I LOVE THIS! That was so fun to read. Congratulations!!

that was really beautiful and funny at the same time.

Oh man, I wasn't supposed to cry! But these are very sweet and tear-worthy for my little mushy heart.

I personally love "plight my troth" and was so happy to use it in my own vows this summer. There is something very romantic about the old school vows and I loved knowing that my parents and grandparents pledged the same thing to their partners.

BUT after the wedding, late at night, my new husband and I read our own vows to each other (also tear-worthy, I might add). I think it's the best of both worlds!

I love this. :)

Ah. Love.

Aw, where's my damn vintage hanky when I need it?

Holly, I think I'm in love with you for promising not to ever shorten husband to hubby. Thank you. I've waged wars about this on Facebook and other places.

I'm so glad I chanced upon your blog.

And congratulations on your wedding! I hope you and Steve have an interesting and fun marriage.

Good Lord, I married you off to the wrong man, which promises to fulfill the interesting if not the fun. Sorry. I did mean Sean in my head. :)