Rock, Paper, Scissors

Greetings from Invitation Central, Internet! The weather is fine and I wish you were here. No, I really wish you were here, because then I'd have someone to help me glue seventy-five tiny doilies into seventy-five tiny RSVP envelopes. Yeah, I know, that sentence sort of reads like a deranged orangutan took control of my computer and wrote it---doilies? in envelopes? what in the what?---but I saw this thing in Martha Stewart Weddings the other day where they made envelopes from doilies, and then I was in Michael's and they had packets of tiny doilies and I bought one because it was $1.99 and I had a 20% off coupon and I've always loved the lacy look of doilies, and then I got home and put it next to my dark grey RSVP envelope, and it was like Martha herself jumped into my living room, waving her arms like a madman.

"Holly," she said in my head. "That looks awesome. That is mostly definitely a Good Thing. Do this with your envelopes. I promise. You are a creative genius."

And that's how I decided to glue seventy-five doilies into seventy-five envelopes. Hey, you don't argue with Martha. Even if she's Fake Martha and she's in your head. Especially if she's Fake Martha and she's in your head. That bitch is crazy.

I've always been a bit of a DIY-er, and with Sean being a designer, it seemed kind of a no-brainer for us to make our own invitations for the wedding. We're not sending the U.S.-based ones out until the first week of July---or even the overseas ones until the mid-to-end of June---but we've been working on them for the past month or so to get them exactly how we want them, and we're definitely getting pretty close. I might like to bitch and moan about how surprisingly stressful planning a wedding has turned out to be---bitch and moan? moi? really? never! (that's your line, go on)---but I've got to say, the ridiculous things like gluing fiddly little doilies into fiddly little RSVP envelopes has actually been one of the most relaxing parts of the whole process. Give me a hundred envelopes to address any day, if the alternative is researching noise permits and compiling table rental quotes. I am deeply, surprisingly crafty. I enjoy gluing and cutting and getting to write things all swirly and pretty. I would really make an excellent scrapbooker.

My mother thinks I'm giving myself too many projects and potentially making things harder than they have to be---could be because I sent her an actual Google spreadsheet of everything I wanted to DIY for the wedding---but I really love doing this stuff myself. There's this weird indescribable satisfaction that comes from having a brilliant idea---or, uh, stealing a brilliant idea from Martha Stewart Weddings---and then seeing it through to fruition. And the best part of it all is the inbetween part, the part where you're actually doing it, where you're sitting in front of a Real Housewives of New Jersey marathon on a Tuesday night, fingers tacky with glue, a stack of RSVP envelopes to the left, a stack of doilies to the right, and look, there's your project taking shape right in front of you! You did that! It's like She Likes Purple said in the comments the other day:

"We made our own invitations and it was unbelievably stupid of us because oh, the fights that were brought on by those invitations. But I don't ever cringe when I think back on making them. Instead I think, 'man, I should really throw more parties so I can make more invitations.' LIKE A CRAZY PERSON."

I'm only at the beginning of my DIY project list, and perhaps I'll read back on this two months from now and simultaneously weep and guffaw at my wet-behind-the-ears enthusiasm towards it all, but for now, I'm just so unabashedly gleeful about all the double-sided tape dispensers and hand-held corner-rounders in my future. And all the terrible TV I get to watch while using them. 

Hairy Farmer Family
Jun 03, 2009

Delurking to say:
I am vibrating (you can't see me, but it's true) with empathic Crafty Wedding Activity harmonics. I also did the whole unabashedly gleeful thing whilst spending hours printing and cutting out hundreds of tiiiiiiiiiny little cute sheep (oxymoron, but never mind) for name tags, table decorations, seating plans etc etc et-holyhell-c. And my wedding spreadsheets... just... legendary.

I am a sister in spirit. Moreover, I think we have the same mother. Yell if you need help sticking.

Jun 03, 2009

i think it's great that you're a will really give your wedding a personal touch....
wait, did I just sound like Martha when I said that????

Jun 03, 2009

Pick a good one and save it NOW!

I definitely bit off more than I could chew. I was so fried from DIY-ing all our invitations, RSVP cards, place cards, programs, etc, I don't think I have any left as mementoes. I even threatened to cull people off the list so I could reduce my stacks.

That said, I'd do it again. In fact, I did. I DIY'd our first kid's birth announcement (and it was 70% more complicated). HAVE FUN!

Jun 03, 2009

This is the difference between you and me(well, one of many, actually, but I digress...). I would not know a hand-held corner-rounder thingie if it were kicking me in the shins. I was forced by circumstance to make some of my own wedding invitations (mother-in-law invited too many people-- I STILL seethe when I think about it!) and I was miserable. I spent the night before my wedding, and the morning of my wedding, now that I think about it, tying together our wedding programs with twee gold corded elastic. I am happy for you that your DIYing is actually a stress reliever and not a stressor, but like I said, that's where we differ.

The bad TV marathon, however, THAT I can get behind.

Operation Pink Herring
Jun 03, 2009

Stuffing and addressing invitations was the most enjoyable part of the process for me so far. Followed closely by maintaining my beloved RSVP tracking spreadsheet.

Jun 03, 2009

We made our own wedding invitations using old post cards. This was one of the images! It was fun ... I loved it!

Jun 03, 2009

I had a very DIY wedding, too. The only thing I would change is the amount of stuff I did myself in that last week. It got in the way of actually experiencing the event, if that makes any sense. There comes a point at the end where even the most DIY bride needs to allow herself time to breathe by letting others do the work.

Jun 03, 2009

Sigh. This makes me so happy. I love to make things and hand-calligraph envelopes and do it all in front of trashy tv. I made my son's birth announcements - a paper diaper wrapped around a pretty card - by cutting each diaper with a scallop-edge scissors and using a real safety pin to hold it together. I had a blast. Now the thought of my three children - the oldest of whom turned four on Sunday, he of the paper diaper announcement - giving me the time to cut scalloped-edge diapers without stealing the scissors and eating the safety pins and barfing on the paper. . . well, just, no. Someday, though, I swear. When those little bastards angels are out of my hair, I will craft again. And I bet the trashy tv available to me then will be even better than I can imagine.

Jun 03, 2009

6 in 1 hour...oh, my!
I hope that you followed your Flikr friend's advice and purchased a bone folder. My unrequested advice, use a can of spray adhesive and not a Martha Stewart advised glue stick. Sit in an area that is sort of ventilated and use a large piece of protective cardboard in front of and behind the doily fold and the adhesive should stay off everything else.
You can mail about 20 - 25 of them to KC (you know b/c you know me and can trust me...sarcasm on the know, but I am a trustworthy individual) and I will take care of them for you. See your friends won't be tired if you just ship out the work and abuse those close by when you are in a time crunch.

Jun 03, 2009

I know I've commented before on all the mildly obsessive DIY-ing that I did for our wedding, so I won't reiterate and bore you. I will, however, give a resounding "hellsya!" to the use of double-sided tape dispensers, because those things? Rock. I had about a mile of grosgrain ribbon to glue to our invitations and with one of those dispensers and a few seasons of C.S.I. to watch on DVD I was happy as could be. (Well, there was also wine. That *always* helps.)

Jun 03, 2009

I LOVED the DIY projects we undertook for our wedding. And even when we were putting together centerpieces the night before (AFTER the long rehearsal dinner), I was having a good time. There is something really satisfying about seeing a project come to fruition at your wedding, especially something that you thought of all by yourself (with or without imaginary Martha). Good luck!

Jun 03, 2009

Are you implying I need a reason to watch the Real Housewives of New Jersey? Because I love those crazy bitches and their big hair and bling and accents. Oh they are so ridiculous that I just can't help myself.

Jun 03, 2009

I DIY'd my whole wedding, and it was *so* much fun. It gives you the chance to really put your own personal stamp on everything.

Jun 03, 2009

I LOVE doing crafty projects so I know exactly what you mean. My now-husband kept questioning if I really wanted to make out invites & programs so intricate, but it was very relaxing for me.

Enjoy it!

Jun 03, 2009

I didn't really make our invitations - just assembled them from a kit - but it still made me crazy. Especially the time I made the fiancé help and he started touching the lovely card stock while eating fies. And then I had to kill him.

Scottsdale Girl
Jun 03, 2009

OMG I love Real Housewives of NJ. Seriously.

Jun 03, 2009

Oh, I remember this... I had just gotten started on my own at this time last year. Designed and made my own invitations, including envelope liners. Glued ribbon to the front of the invitations. Didn't do RSVP cards and envelopes, though - I slipped in a card with an email address instead.

Jun 03, 2009

I wish I could do my wedding all over again to do even more DIY stuff. We only had 3 months to plan, so I did the invitations, name cards for the tables and a few decorations. One thing that almost put me & my soon-to-be husband over the edge was doing wax seals on all the invitations. The burning wax made our tiny apt. smell awful and each seal took about 5+ minutes to do ( the wax had to *drip*drip*drip* onto the envelope). It was slow work, but I would do it again... not just for the pretty envelopes, but also for the memory of us laughing (& coughing) while we did them.

Jun 03, 2009

I know EXACTLY how you feel. The Paper Source should be renamed the Crack Source. I get tingly in my fingers when I walk in there. And it is actually relaxing to do that stuff while watching a marathon of whatever. I actually make collage art on a regular basis while watching TV. EVEN IF I HAVE NOTHING THAT NEEDS TO BE COLLAGED. I like it that much. I make people collaged birthday cards because why buy when you can create? I also put magnets on the back for insta-display. If I were getting married I'd be right there with you and Martha.

Jun 03, 2009

You're using double sided tape? oh please don't do that to yourself.
Get some spray mount or letratac. I prefer Letratac use it at work all the time but not sure of the price. Both available at art stores.
Spray mount is really sprayable rubber cement, it allows you to position the piece lightly and then press into place. Best to do on your balcony or near a window because of the fumes.
Letratac is even better, it comes in a pad of sheets. You put down a bunch of your doilies, roll over it with a roller they sell, pull them off and the glue is transferred onto the back. Then place in your envelopes and roll over them again.

Jun 04, 2009

We just celebrated our first anniversary... and I did DIY for almost everything as we only had 3 weeks from the time we set the date... (it was moved up by almost 3 months due to a transfer!) but it was a great adventure and DH was there to help with everything! As a few others have said... use spray mount... it will go so much better and have a better finish. Love your blog... lurk often!

jacqueline c
Jun 04, 2009

I'm not sure if this is the best time, or worse time, to mention the website I JUST discovered:

It's so fun!

I'm definitely into DIY though. Probably to a fault - because I ALSO hate asking for help of any kind. (Brings to mind another acronym, YOYO: You're On Your Own...)

Jun 05, 2009

The quote you included about making invitations being the worst wedding planning choice ever, but now all you want to do is throw more parties so you can make more invitations? Yeah -- that'd be me too. I'm a damned masochist, I think.
Stacks of finished items is satisfying indeed. Good luck :)

Jun 05, 2009

After reading this blog post of yours, I was browsing Apartment Therapy and came across this DIY project with, you guessed it, doilies!

Check it out here:

I just thought it was too funny to come across two doily-inspired posts in one day!

Jun 09, 2009

YES. Invitation making is a delicious joy. Aren't you glad that you discovered that?